Nothing stops us in our tracks faster than the loss of a loved one. Yesterday, Dec. 16, I lost my sister, Rita. Rita was a wife, mom, grandma, sister, teacher for 28 years, daughter, friend to many. She was my oldest sister and a close friend. She was married to a minister and so we had many thing in common. We lived so far apart for so long and our schedules hardly ever coincided. She was 10 years older than me and married when I was 7, so our lives were lived apart until she and her husband, Bob, retired. They moved to Bourbonnais, Illinois at retirement. Because of my relationship with Olivet Nazarene University in Bourbonnais, I have had the privilege to be around her for the past several years.
She was the sweetest lady. She was always fun and being with her always made me happy. I’ve been trying to figure out how to best express this and am having a difficult time putting this into words. Rita was so much like my dad in personality. One thing about her was her love of people and her love for conversation. I can’t express how much I will miss her. We would talk once a month on the phone and always end with a joke for each other.
For years I called my mom every week and then when she passed Rita became my regular phone call. I will be lost for some time. Going to her home was so much like going to my Uncle and Aunts home. There were always peanuts and chocolate covered raisins (her favorite). You were always welcome in her home, just like my parents.
She struggled physically most of her life. She had lupus disease in her 20′s and they gave her 6 months to live, then God did a wonderful thing in healing her. She struggled with other things physically for years and then she was diagnosed with acute rheumatoid arthritis about 6 years ago. She faithfully did her treatments and went through countless surgeries but she never quit. She was told she had about 3-5 years to live about 5 years ago and Friday, in her sleep, unexpectedly, she made the journey from this world to an eternal one where the God she loved, served and had a relationship with welcomed her home. She is safe and whole. I like to think that maybe, just maybe, our mom and dad welcomed their first born into heaven along with our Savior.
Thank you Rita, for being such a wonderful person in my life. For being my sister, all 4’10 of you. I have loved you as a sister and always will. You’ll always bring a smile to my face when I think of you. I have a great picture of us in my office and will always remember how kind and loving you were to me. Until we meet again.